"Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men," says Harold, 35."At some point you need to let him know you're interested by reaching out.Most men will pay for first dates, but some won’t pay or expect the woman to pay for her share.Here is some advice for a woman going on a first date: Ladies, after you have been on your first date or two with a man, the rules change a little.Think of it as a response to all the misinformation you get from dating books: the ones that tell you not to call him because if you seem interested, he'll shy away.
Hopefully they'll help you on your quest to find somebody who doesn't make you want to pull your hair out in fistfuls, and please don't take any of them (the rules or the dud dates) too seriously.Be respectful of how you treat him, and be respectful of his wallet if he is paying.If you respect him, he will respect you, and hopefully that will lead to a long and happy relationship together, lasting much longer than a few dinner dates!If You're Trying to Be the Kind of Girl He's Attracted to, He's Not the Kind of Guy You Want I didn't say he's the kind of guy you're not attracted to. That's why you're taking a cab to his neighborhood at a.m., and trying to stay awake during the Kubrik movie.But if you have to hide your CDs when he comes over and pretend you don't like and you find yourself making fewer jokes and leaving your own needs out of the equation (like if it's 10 a.m.Going out for a milkshake and taking a drive down Sunset Boulevard was deemed acceptable in the 60s whereas now, women expect to be wined, dined and entertained by their dates before even considering a second meet up.Despite all the changes that we’ve seen in the world, one thing remains firm and steadfast: men absolutely have to practice chivalry for a date to go smoothly.In sex, just like sports, it pays to play by the rules. In football, officials moved the restraining line from the 30-yard line to the 35, with the intention of increasing touchbacks. Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.And in basketball, officials dumped the no-dunk rule after fans complained that it made play less exciting. Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.She is no longer required to just smile and look pretty.Stimulating conversation, a sense of humor and inherent intellect are now expected from the modern woman.