I had not changed my location settings or my age settings from the default, so Matt kind of snuck in there, because there's a 13-year age difference and we lived 50 miles apart.
So we got a match, but neither of us was really taking it seriously.
And you're not going to meet somebody at a bar if you're a single mom. Five months into dating, he proposed, but we had already been talking about it for a few months. So I saw that Khalil liked me, and at this point, it was kind of overwhelming to be a girl doing online dating — I needed to make a spreadsheet or something. After doing online dating for a while, what I knew was I'd rather not spend a long time getting to know him.
It was great, because I couldn't get out a lot at the time — I could get out maybe once a week, if I had a babysitter.
Making sense of dating algorithms is a virgin science and is still more miss than hit, says Mark Brooks, a dating-industry analyst and the editor of Online Personals Watch.
When people do find somebody they like, sites don’t often know why or how they’ve been successful, he says.
“That doesn’t mean that the algorithms fulfill our intentions, which is to find a mate and to settle down into a long-lasting relationship.” Why do dating sites fall short?
The questions posed by the various sites are too rudimentary, Webb says, and they tend to focus on a grocery list of requirements.