Rule #2: Pay Attention to Red Flags Like those internal alarms that alert you to your gut feelings, you also have an alarm system to alert you to red flags. As a result, we often ignore red flags and find ourselves getting involved with inappropriate partners because we’re not paying attention.To become a truly successful single in the new millennium, you owe it to yourself to become a red flag specialist.When she came back, she noticed that I didn’t put in my credit card to pick up or split the check. We can never know unless we let down our guard and allow her to pick up a check.
Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men. That means paying attention to red flags as they are presented to you on dates.An example of a red flag would be if you found yourself on a date with someone who could not stop talking about their ex.You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours with losers just because you’re lonely.Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.They may be a fantastic person, and eventually make a great partner, but right now they’re not ready.As you can probably guess, the responses I received were all over the place. My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood. I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. The pressure is off as a single mom.…and that makes you a delight to be around. So many disappointments, self-blame, and broken hearts. Since becoming a single mother I have found that I am so much less judgmental of myself. 1) you became a parent, which will blow your mind, heart and life in incredible ways, and 2) you’ve found yourself single after a serious longterm relationship.Some readers insisting that the man should always pay (on the first date anyhow). Some saying that the person who initiated the date should pay.And some with much more complicated and detailed answers.