Today’s modern world poses a new dilemma, the social media dilemma, in which past generations never had to consider: How do we maneuver our real-life relationships into this new and inevitable social media arena and how do we distinguish when it’s appropriate to transition these relationships that we have in real life- online?
It is exactly this: no different than in the olden days, we must lay down the ground rules for our relationships offline as well as online.
I vowed as I left his place in the middle of the night that I would never put myself in that dangerous of a situation again.
And even though I now make sure people know my identity before I’m alone with a potential partner, there are still some aspects of this interaction that seem to show up in my dating life no matter how many precautions I take.
He had just moved to Atlanta from Chicago and had this whole stereotypical macho thing about him.
We’d just met, so I can only imagine the infinite possibilities swirling in his head.
That didn’t stop the intense expression of confusion that spread across his face.“So you’re a man? “Do you know how lucky you are that I’m not, like, crazy?
Because I know plenty of guys who would really do some shit to you.”“No, I’m a woman, a transgender woman,” I answered, trying to make him understand. His entire view of me had changed and there was no going back.
The rules of proper dating reflect that underlying concern. We've been on and off until I stopped it last year.Then this past November I decided to give it a try again.The thing is, from the beginning he told me he didn't wanted to have anything serious.At first I was fine, but then I started to gain feelings, so I stopped it.So if he has not introduced you to his friends and family and doesn’t call you his girl friend yet, this is an obvious ‘hell no’ you better not make it Facebook official yet, girl.Much like in real life, I believe the guy should make the first move in taking the relationship to the next level, which now includes this weird virtual world of being exclusive ‘online’.That is everyone’s experience at one time or another.But the story made me stop and think about just what constituted “proper treatment” throughout dating.We've been getting very close to the point that we had sex.But my best friend isn't aware of what's happening between her brother and me.