With that being said, if “the talk” has not happened after, let’s say 3-4 months, it is safe to say that there may be something else going on in his mind that may be stopping him from fully claiming you as his. His idea of a relationship is different than yours 3.
He’s not good at (or fears) speaking his truth/feelings (fear of vulnerability) 4.
You may be spending every weekend at his place and making stupid shmoopy eyes at each other over dinner and playing tonsil hockey in the park like teenagers, but that DOES NOT make him your boo. I thought somehow, this dating lots of people thing and not committing myself too soon was supposed to make me feel more powerful. It made me feel like even more of an ass, just in a different way.
At least not until you’ve discussed it and have both agreed upon the terms of service for your relationship. Juggling these guys, sorting through the different shades of caring for them, trying to build a connection with all of them at once, trying to schedule multiple dates per week, left me lying awake at night, exhausted, with my stomach in knots, worrying about hurting someone’s feelings.
As far as relationships go, I don’t see anything wrong with starting a relationship right off of the bat if you’re both feeling it.Most often if affection/love is mutual, the “talk” will happen naturally.If a man is truly into you, he will want to claim you as his own in order to define a line so that you won’t still be out there shopping. Your partner has a fear of commitment based on past experiences 2. Open, honest communication is the key The “exclusivity” talk is an important one, but not one that can be defined perfectly with an exact amount of time.There are so many variables to each relationship that it would be silly to think that all relationships have a defined curriculum that they need to follow in order for them to be meaningful or serving.Many experts consider “exclusivity” an important stage in a relationship during which you give each other a trial run to see if you are compatible enough to go the distance.It’s a declaration of confidence in the future of your union.She may tend to cling and claw at her partner in hopes to fill the void that she has not yet learned to fill by herself.Hence, she will want to force “the talk” in order to fill this void as quickly as possible.Therefore, many times people wait to become exclusive until they’ve dated for awhile.Having said that, if two people have an open heart, are baggage free, emotionally available, and both totally digging each other, any time after If someone really wants to be with a person, they’ll make things happen, and they’ll likely even do so in an orderly, enthusiastic, and normal way.