Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn’t want to.” As a male coach for smart, strong, successful women, I apologize on behalf of all men. But they really don’t get what it’s like to walk a mile in your shoes.
I wrote about this in Finding the One Online extensively – what it’s like to be a woman dating online and how men need to up their games to connect.
Man barely lasts two hours as a woman because the responses from his fellow men are so toxic.
“At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating.
Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.
Just so blessed in that department so I have no complaints. Just not for me” ) and a few of them just sort of drifted off into the never never land that is dating. Women who spend any time online know about all of the trolls and all of the shamers. I think once you become an adult, you become more interested in the WHOLE person and not the shell that person is in, ya know? In real life, I have never had any men (not to my face anyway) say anything negative about my big body… If they criticize you and put you down, you need to break up with them right away. Ain’t no one got time for that bull shit, as they say. Do not reply back with witty comments about their sad, pitiful life – no matter how good it might feel. “Please stop emailing me.” And then SAVE everything in case you ever need it.
Hell, I just gave a TEDx talk about this very thing.
Men scramble to approach women like rats chewing on a meaty chicken bone, and then wonder why women are so turned off by them.
It’s far too complex, scary and difficult for mere mortals – so let’s bridge the gap by asking both men and women what doesn’t work when it comes to online dating Dating has gone digital.
The reason why they can attract a hot woman is that women CAN be attracted in other ways.
Some women are extremely picky and will not accept a fat guy, but the vast majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in a guy than most men realize. If you’re a fat guy and you’re looking to get laid, get a girlfriend or find yourself a wife, what you need to do is improve your ability to attract women when you interact with them.
For example: When you’re interacting with a woman, your style of conversation, your vibe and your behavior is either going to be turning her on or not.
If you don’t know how to turn her on during an interaction and are actually turning her off in subtle ways (e.g.